I have been thinking about the need to post this for such a long time. There have been so many times when the Lord has pointed me to this scripture and I have seen the evidence of disobeying this command in my life first hand and makes me want to beg and plead with all you single gals to PLEASE. GUARD. YOUR. HEART!!!!
I would like to preface this by saying that the intended audience for this post is single, Christian ladies - not women who are already married. To you married ladies, just know I'm rowing that boat with you and I know how you feel. I am in an unequally yoked marriage but I am by no means trying to imply that I don't love my husband because I do - very, very much, but the pain of watching someone you love go through life trying to fill a Christ sized hole in their life with the world is awful. Knowing the eternity they face if they continue on this path is even worse.
The Word of God instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her. Ladies he can only do this if he has a relationship with the Lord to begin with.
The Word also says for wives to submit to husbands as unto the Lord. Now I want to set something straight right away. Biblical submission IS NOT the same thing as worldly submission!!! I can't stress that point strongly enough. Biblical submission DOES NOT mean that you are bowed down to your husband. It DOES NOT mean you are weak and voiceless. It DOES NOT mean that you are a door mat and that you let your man run all over you. Ask Bryan Honto if I let him run all over me...lol...Biblical submission means to lift up or support. Think of Tammy Wynette singing Stand By Your Man. We are also commanded to respect our husbands...even when they don't act in a respectable manner. Girls, this is harder than you can imagine if a man's first love isn't the Lord.
So what's a girl to do you ask? Make sure the Lord is your first love. A wise friend of mine told me back in high school "Never date someone you wouldn't marry. You never know who you might fall in love with." I am now sharing this extremely valuable pearl of wisdom with you.
If you are living your life for the Lord, he will give you the patience and peace you need to enjoy singledom. I am going to be so bold as to say that you can look at this time in your life as a time of preparation. You obviously need to know what to look for in a man so I'm going to do the grunt work for you and give you a list of scriptures for you to look up and study.
The first thing I want you to do is memorize 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7. This is the guideline for love. By inserting our names where the word love is, we are able to keep ourselves in check but you also need to be able to put your potential gentleman's name in there too. If you are dating a man who's name wont fit most of those, move along sister. It may hurt for now but I promise you that it's better to get it over with now instead of spending years in misery.
Here's some more scriptures for you girls to look at so you can know what to look for in your future gentleman:
1 Timothy 5:8
1 Peter 3:7
As you get into these scriptures you will see why I am stressing so hard that any potential man in your life needs to be chasing Jesus with everything in him. Ladies, I urge to live your life in such a way to that any man that wants to holler at you will have to go through Jesus to get to you. Did I do this? NOOOOOOOO I sure didn't and that is exactly why I urge you to do so.
Make him chase Jesus to get to you and remember you are a princess after all. I mean your Father IS the King of Kings so straighten that crown and be still and wait on your prince.